Don’t you love life’s detours?
I’ve learned a valuable lesson—life is what happens when you’re busy making your own plans!
I have a confession…. I hate change!
There I said it. I know, that’s really ironic for someone who teaches her clients about changing self-defeating behaviors.
I’m the kind of person that likes to see change coming. As far down the road as possible. I can handle spontaneity…as long as I can plan for it!
So how did I learn to roll with the punches?
If you’re like me and you like to maintain the status quo, you will have a hard time adapting when (not if) change finds you.
A simple truth about me is that I teach what I need to learn. So how have I learned to deal with change?
- Understand and accept what I can and can’t control. This is big for me. I have learned to break down the situation and figure out if there is anything about it that I can control. If I can’t change the situation, I can change my reaction. That is the one thing that I can control. (Have you figured out that control is an issue for me? That’s another blog topic one day!).
- Embrace my new normal. Attitude is everything. If I have a negative attitude–mope, whine, act out or demonstrate passive aggressive behavior—then I miss my opportunity to make the best out of the situation. Yea, change is hard, but it can be easier to handle if I try to look on the bright side.
- Find one thing that beats the old way. If I can find the upside, or something that is “better” than the old way, it helps me make the adjustment. I like to do a pros and con list to compare and contrast what’s old against what’s new. Sometimes, it’s just a tiny improvement, but don’t forget, it’s all about the attitude!
- Think bigger picture. I broaden my perspective. I’m all about big, forward thinking visions. My lesson learned from looking back in life, is that when major change happened, it helped to significantly change my future. So now, when I’m dealing with big change, I think about the potential and long term gain.
- Have a contingency plan. Back to my control issue. I’m always looking at things and saying “what if?” So usually I have considered the possibility of my new scenario, and thought of how I’d handle it.
Bottom-line, when change happens, I try to read the writing on the wall and get ready, because change is coming! How do you handle change in your life? Comment on this blog and let me know.
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